Dissapointments are directly propotional to the square of expectations

Now, this is what happens if we dont post anything for a loong time !! We forget the password and will have to retrieve it.
I am currently listening to the song "Feeling blue" from Pyar ke Side Effects and yesss.. I am feeling a lil blue. A part of my life is gone on some business work to a godforsaken place called the US of A.
I am a kind of guy who believes. I generally believe and the belief sticks to me. I guess for the first time, now that I realised, I proved my self wrong. I beleived that I'll be fine w/o her and its just a matter of a couple of weeks. Naaah!!
I miss everything associated with her.. her beautiful face, her smile, her anger; dropping her to the bus stand, eating out with her, fight with her...everything !!
Then I realised how much people can get "USED" to the other person.
Consciously or subconsciously, we all get used to living our life a definite way with someone who is our dear. Can be mom dad friend sibling spouse anyone.
We find comfort in their presence.
But the sad part is, we also tend to take the other person for granted.
This is the point of discussion today...
In a bid to be happy, to be pampered to be loved and to be taken care of, we sometimes fail to realise if the other person is up to the ask or not at that given point in time.
It is this sacrifice which we may have to make once in a while to make sure things go smooth.
This is where a mismatch of expectations and deliverables happen which bring about slight "ting tong" to that "smooth" I mentioned. The debate will always be on between the asker and the supposed giver. It can generally be resolved by simple talk but now that we are the most complex of living beings, we stick to complexity. We somehow enjoy getting trapped in the exit free web of arguments and dissatisfaction's. This ultimately brings in a lot of unwanted acrimony to the most beautiful feeling which we all very casually call LOVE.
What do you do when U expect smthing from your spouse and you dont get it??
How do you deal with it..??
Will wait for your comments on this.

Lonely Adi