Now, this is what happens if we dont post anything for a loong time !! We forget the password and will have to retrieve it.
I am currently listening to the song "Feeling blue" from Pyar ke Side Effects and yesss.. I am feeling a lil blue. A part of my life is gone on some business work to a godforsaken place called the US of A.
I am a kind of guy who believes. I generally believe and the belief sticks to me. I guess for the first time, now that I realised, I proved my self wrong. I beleived that I'll be fine w/o her and its just a matter of a couple of weeks. Naaah!!
I miss everything associated with her.. her beautiful face, her smile, her anger; dropping her to the bus stand, eating out with her, fight with her...everything !!
Then I realised how much people can get "USED" to the other person.
Consciously or subconsciously, we all get used to living our life a definite way with someone who is our dear. Can be mom dad friend sibling spouse anyone.
We find comfort in their presence.
But the sad part is, we also tend to take the other person for granted.
This is the point of discussion today...
In a bid to be happy, to be pampered to be loved and to be taken care of, we sometimes fail to realise if the other person is up to the ask or not at that given point in time.
It is this sacrifice which we may have to make once in a while to make sure things go smooth.
This is where a mismatch of expectations and deliverables happen which bring about slight "ting tong" to that "smooth" I mentioned. The debate will always be on between the asker and the supposed giver. It can generally be resolved by simple talk but now that we are the most complex of living beings, we stick to complexity. We somehow enjoy getting trapped in the exit free web of arguments and dissatisfaction's. This ultimately brings in a lot of unwanted acrimony to the most beautiful feeling which we all very casually call LOVE.
What do you do when U expect smthing from your spouse and you dont get it??
How do you deal with it..??
Will wait for your comments on this.
Lonely Adi
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LOVE - as they say is about giving and not expecting! And i completely disagree with whoever said that!
Giving is directly and fully proportional to expecting!
And what happens when you dont get what you expect - especially from the one you love - you crib/sulk/mourn and sometimes fight!
I can say this from being with the one I love for the last 7 1/2 years .... there is no solution to this! ha ha ha
Addy, if you were expecting gyan from me. this is all you get, man!
Nice work!
nay sweety.. I am the one who can give gyan here [:P] I agree with you completely on the expecting from ur love part...
Hey aady though I didnt get success in my Luv yet.. I just wanna share what I feel.. I wanna use my mother tongue to describe it.. chudu ra.. general ga parents ki manam ante yentho istam.. vaaalu manalni love chesthaaru manamu vaalani luv chesthaamu.. kaani nee love ninnu miss avinapudu pade baadha parents dagara padavu.. yendhukante manaku thelsu vaalu yepudu manathone untaaru ani so manam vaala dagara advantaga thesukuntaamu.. alane.. mana luv, caring, understanding yekuva ayye sariki mana partners ki vaalu yemi chesinaa manamu vaalthone untaamu ane confidence vasthundi.. dhaani valla vaalu nvu chupinchinatha bayataku chupincha ka povachu but still they love u and care 4 u.. aina guys ki komcham possesive compared to gals.. nenu yepudu yekadaku velina thana gurinche alochisthunaanu kada thanu kuda ala undadha anukuntaamu.. manam yentha busy lo unna kuda vaala dagara nunchi call vachinaa yedaina manam vaalake preference isthaamu. but I feel most of the gals r nt like tht ra.. they love u and care for u.. but they also think abt society and others.. for us vaalu not part of our life.. they are heart of our life.. kaani vaalaki adhi ardam kaadu.. atla ani vaalaki manam istam leka potam kaadu r something else.. kaaka pothe okati yepudaina gals chesindi manam wrong ante vaalaki chaala kopam they do agree but they repeat it again.. u have to understand them.. anthe.. one gud solution may be u also do the same thing wat they r dng for u.. anthe.. then they can udnerstand u.. but dnt prolong it anthe.. hey indulo nenu chepindi general ga yevari gurinchi kaadu ok na.. And one more thing... u r nt lonely aadi.. u r always LOVELY AADHI..TAKE CARE..
hey sweetie...
its nice to see this side of you too
:)
good work paddu!!!
And about the expectations part... u know no two sides can ever be completely balanced... i think thats just plain impossible. WE always want more, iots upto us to decide where exactly do we draw the reasonable line ...
Hi adi ... happen to peruse through this by chance...
Human tendency is usually is to expect more than they give and then wallow in self-pity about the unfairness in the entire equation …
Another random though ... how do we quantify expectations and disappointments … this can make so many ‘assumed stable’ configurations unstable …
This entire outburst of emotion here can all be blamed on our BELIEF that INERTIA is stable and everything converges to a stable equilibrium ... hence, we tend to equate our perceived state inertia as a measure of stability.
there is a fallacy in our BELIEF … most things in nature are CHAOTIC and unpredictable … most things do not converge to a stable equilibrium … even so they continue to exist …
I know it’s a far reaching explanation I am trying to grasp and define it in words here …
In a Newtonian world, we can have linear relationships between any input and output. Our ideas and thoughts still belong to that era where we tend to associate some linear relationship between how we act and behave and how we expect people to respond …
But modern science used to describe modern world relies on accepting ‘chaos’ as a reality … we cannot predict the outcome based on a simple understanding of the input …
If ‘Chaos’ is a reality … our basis of expectation disappears and we evolve to ‘expect the unexpected’ … this is the true nature of life and its myriad complexity
if i have not added anything useful ... i sure have added to the "CHAOS" and complexity
never saw this side of u :)
giving and expecting always goes both ways but finding the balance btwn both never seems possible.
That is the fun of being married or in arelationship I guess, right :)
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